2018 Goal Strategizing Workshop

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What to expect

• Discovering and defining your 2018 goals
• Individual and Small Team
• Roadblocks and barriers
• Next steps and accountability

Why now?

December 31st, 2018

• Who are you now?
• What does your life look like?
• What were you able to accomplish this year?
• What are you most proud of?

Themes and Grouping

Avg. 4-5

Health" or "Improve Relationships"

Clarify

Health→ “Lose 25 lbs by December 31, 2018"

Relationships---> “Take steps to repair and change my thoughts and unwanted behaviors in dating”

Behaviorally Concrete example:

Health→ “Lose 25 lbs by December 31, 2018”

How will I do this?

1)Work with my doctor on health issues,
2) make appointment with endocrinologist I’ve been putting off
3) Commit to eating gluten free & no refined sugar, 90/10 rule.
4)Exercise 4-5 times a week
5) Use WW tracker app daily

Emotional/ Subjective topic example:

“Improve my relationship with Men--Meaning: I want to examine the source of what causes my anguish and take steps to repair and change my thoughts and behaviors in dating”

How will I do this?

1)Meet with a therapist or coach specifically on this topic
2) Attend Alanon Meetings
3) Read 3 books on this topic

Get into detail and break down your How?

1)Call for appointment with Endocrinologist by Jan. 12th

2) Pick out which exercise classes and put them in my calendar. If my schedule varies, do it weekly, or even daily.
3)Weekly meal planning and grocery shopping on Sundays

Self Sabotage

“Each of us has an inner thermostat setting that determines how much love, success, and creativity we allow ourselves to enjoy. When we exceed our inner thermostat setting, we will often do something to sabotage ourselves, causing us to drop back into the old, familiar zone where we feel secure.” - Gay Hendricks

Feeling Fundamentally Flawed
Disloyalty and Abandonment
Believing that more success brings a bigger burden
The crime of outshining

Limiting Beliefs

Limiting belief --I’m afraid to start, because I’m going to embarrass myself-->I’m afraid I will fail-->I’m not good enough and everyone will find out-->I am unlovable at my core

What is the reality?
I’m actually really good at what I do, and I’ve got years of experience and client testimonials to back it up. I trust my gift and my calling. I am loved. Outside factors do not get to determine my self worth. If I fail, I won’t die. I will be okay.

Excuses

Ask Yourself

• Is it based in reality?
• Does it apply to this?
• What would my best self say?

"It’s so cold and dark outside, I don’t want to go out."

It IS cold and dark outside, I hear you. You know that you feel better when you go. You’ll be outside for a very brief time going to and from your car.

"You need a day to rest. It’s okay to take today off."

But do you? How accurate is that statement? What did you commit to?

"I’m tired and I just don’t want to go."

I know you’re tired. I hear you saying you don’t want to. When I look back on this, will I feel better for going? Will this get me closer to my goal or further away? WWJ2018D? (What would Jaime 2018 do?)

Next Steps & Accountability

1) The Motivation Method Private Group

2) Monthly progress email with your goal squad

Acceptance is the key