Bringing in the Bystander

BRAINSTORM ON BYSTANDER RESPONSIBILITY

• What is a bystander?
• Are our ideas of bystanders positive or negative?
• Why?

Bystanders are individuals who witness emergencies, criminal events or situations that could lead to criminal events and by their presence may have the opportunity to provide assistance, do nothing, or contribute to the negative behavior.

In the context of this program, pro-social bystanders are individuals whose behaviors intervene in ways that impact the outcome positively.

Bystander Effect

Barriers

How Silence is Interpreted

Creating a Culture of Care

When to Do Something:

• When someone is joking about sexual violence
• When someone is pressuring others to hook up
• When someone is getting ready to have sex with a person who is drugged, drunk, or unconscious
• When someone makes sexist comments

Intervention Tips

• Prioritize your safety
• Avoid using violence
• Recruit help if needed
• Use distractions or humor
• Provide info
• Clarification
• I statements
• Use non-verbals

Intervention Styles: Different Paths You Can Take

Chip Man

The Divider

The Divider

• “Hey, I am worried you might be making a mistake…How about you meet up with _____ tomorrow?”
• “I am not sure you should do this…you seem pretty drunk”
• “Looks like you might need help home, want me to walk with you?”

The Interrupter

The Interrupter

• “I have to go to the bathroom, come with me.”
• “I’m starving. Want to grab McDonalds?”
• “Hey can you come talk to me, I need your advice?”

The Evaluator

The Evaluator

• “Hey, what do you think we should do?”
• “What do you think is the best way to handle this?”
• “Can you help me? I think our friends are really out of it and should probably go home.”

The Recruiter

The Recruiter

• “I am going to ask if Charlie wants to go grab food, you want to see if Jordan is ready to go home?”
• “Will you come with me to see if Logan is okay?”
• “I don’t feel comfortable about what’s happening… what do you think we should do?”

The Disrupter

The Disrupter

• Spill your drink
• Call the cell phone of the person you are concerned about
• Trip over something
• Begin a karaoke session or a new game

Time to Practice

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