You will also need to know how to put that knowledge into practice. You need to know what it looks like in a coaching conversation to work from a place of knowledge of adult learning.
Talk for less than a third of the time in a coaching session. Trust that by giving her time to talk and be heard -- and perhaps a thought-provoking question -- she will get what she needs from the conversation.
When you wonder if you should return to the classroom -- when you miss the joy in teaching kids, when you stumble as a new coach -- set your sights on spotting the joy in coaching. It’s there.
These are conversations that matter. Use student work, anecdotes, observations, and videos of students to ground the conversation in the needs of our young people.
Don’t take on too many projects, responsibilities, or tasks. You need time to think, plan, reflect, and learn about coaching.
Resist the temptation to do more as a way of compensating for not knowing what you’re doing as a coach. If you’re a coach, learn about coaching, and do it.
There’s a lot of change that needs to happen in our schools, and it’s going to take time. You can make every conversation count. The poet Rumi wrote, “Patience does not mean to passively endure. It means to be farsighted enough to trust the end result of a process.” Trust the process.
Be insatiably, humbly curious. Learn to ask nonjudgmental questions that create expansion in someone else’s thinking and imagination. Learn to ask nonjudgmental questions about assumptions, biases, interpretation, and opinion. Know that you will learn a tremendous amount as an instructional coach about things you don’t yet know that you don’t know. Be curious.
Have compassion for those you are supporting. Have compassion for students. Have compassion with yourself. From compassion comes the conversations we need to transform our schools.