Communication & Relationships

THE THINGS

Negative self-talk

1. I have to be perfect

2. I need the approval of everyone

3. That's the way it is.

4. You made me feel that way.

5. I'm helpless.

6. If something bad will happen, it will happen.

Barriers to Effective Communication

1. Criticizing

• Negative evaluations
• Saying "it's your fault" or "I told you so"

2. Name-Calling and labeling

3. Giving advice

• Talking Down to a person
• May resent Advice

4. Ordering or commanding

5.Threatening

6.Moralizing

7.Diverting

8.Logical Arguing

Dealing with Conflict

1. Win-lose

2. Lose-Lose

3. Compromise

4. Win-Win

Steps in a Win-Win Approach:

1. Identify the problem

2. Set a good time to discuss issue

Solving Conflicts

• Discuss Problems as they arise.
• Ask for what they want. (NO HINTS)
• Be nice
• Be reasonable
• Understand that no one is P E R F E C T

4. Look at the other point of view

5. Look for alternatives that work for both parties

6. Decide on the best alternative

7. Take action to implement the solution

Friendship

Not good at making friends?

• Be a good listener and be supportive
• Talk about yourself
• Be a friend and Accept your friends
• Spend time with your friends
• Show appreciation

Set Rules for Roomates

• Neatness and Borrowin
• Smoking and Noise
• Sleeping and Studying
• Guests and Temperature

relationships

Surviving the loss of a Relationship

Stages

• Shock or Denial
• Anger or depression
• Understanding or Acceptance

DEAL WITH IT

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