No More Excuses

Jaime LK Jackson, MSOD
The Motivation Method, LLC
US, Costa Rica, France, China
Pepperdine #1 Globally Ranked Program
Published Research & Contributing Writer

What to Expect

• Taking a look at what gets in our way
• Better understanding our thought patterns
• Self reflection and small group support
• Tools and concepts for further exploration

Goal Reflection

What were your goals?


What did you do that was successful?


If not, what got in the way?

Understanding Our Excuses

“Remember, the moment you accept total responsibility for EVERYTHING in your life, is the moment you claim the power to change ANYTHING in your life

Hal Elrod

“Many of you are gripped by the loony idea that your intentions are different from the results you create. It simplifies life enormously the moment you accept that the results you create are your unconscious intentions made visibly manifest”



Gay Hendricks

Get to know your excuses like the back of your hand:

- It's cold and dark outside
- I'm too tired
- I can do it tomorrow
- I don't have enough time

Why do we sabotage ourselves?



“Each of us has an inner thermostat setting that determines how much love, success, and creativity we allow ourselves to enjoy. When we exceed our inner thermostat setting, we will often do something to sabotage ourselves, causing us to drop back into the old, familiar zone where we feel secure”


Gay Hendricks

Feeling Fundamentally Flawed

Disloyalty & Abandonment


Believing that more success brings a bigger burden


The Crime of Outshining

Get Clear on Your Purpose

“When you are committed to a life purpose that is bigger than your problems, your problems become relatively insignificant and you will overcome them with ease”






Hal Elrod

Cognitive Distortions

• Black & White Thinking
• Personalization
• "Should" Statements
• Catastrophizing
• Magnifying
• Minimizing
• Mind reading
• Fortune Telling

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• Overgeneralization
• Discounting the Positive
• Filtering
• Labeling
• Blaming
• Emotional Reasoning
• Always being "right"
• Self Serving Bias

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• Heaven's Reward Fallacy
• Fallacy of Change
• Fallacy of Fairness
• Control Fallacy
• "20 Cognitive Distortions and How They effect your life", Good Therapy.org, April 2015

Awareness --->
Acceptance --->
Action

Awareness


Emotional Example:
I am filled with fear and self doubt around taking the next steps in my business



Behavioral Example:
I realize I am overweight and I need to lose 20 lbs.

Acceptance

This fear has kept me safe. It’s kept me protected from risk. Anxiety is a biological defense mechanism in our central nervous system that sends out a warning sign that danger is present. When I experience fear, it elicits anxiety in my body as a way to protect me. I am grateful for this part of my personality that has tried to look out for me. In growing up in a dangerous childhood, it developed as a way to keep me safe. Thank you for protecting me fear. However, I no longer need you. I am much older now and able to take care of myself. I am ready to let you go.

Acceptance


I have used food to handle my emotions. Food has comforted me in times of stress, sadness, celebration, and connection with family. I’ve also used my weight as an excuse to not enjoy life to the fullest. I am grateful to the role food has played to get me through some tough times, however I now have better tools to manage my emotions. I am ready to let this go.

Action



When I feel fear, I acknowledge the feeling for what it is, and I let it pass over me like a cloud. I do not attach to it.


When I am craving food, I ask myself questions around the reality of my hunger. Have I eaten recently? Am I truly hungry? Could something else be going on that is calling me to use food? I reach to other options I know sooth and comfort me

Permission Slips

Where are we holding ourselves back from living our fullest?

What do we need to give ourselves permission to do?

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