Mark Dombeck PH.D, writes "Self Identity Problems." He explains how many people struggle with finding themselves and many never do. Time and self love he says makes the world go round. The two identities of the couple should be strong and as they become one they should only balance each other out while supporting the good and helping the bad. Two people but having one common goal, the happiness of the other. When two become one, there’s beauty to that. A healthy relationship celebrates and encourages your unique sense of self within it. you shouldn't find any sort of validation from marriage. you should already feel enough and whole all by yourself and when you are in a healthy marriage you should just feel even more complete.

Dombeck states, "People's identity is rooted in their identifications; in what they associate themselves with and that can sometimes get lost in marriage." He continues by explaining identity more in depth, "Identity is not just what you know; it is also how you know. People are not born with an identity. Rather, identity is something that evolves over time." Bottom line is, there are dangers of finding your identity in a marriage. it's best to know who you are before you decide to get married, and although marriage brings happiness it should not fix all your problems and make them go away. marriage has a greater purpose.

I believe you should feel good on you own but great with the person you're supposed to be with, not because you find yourself within them or within the idea of marriage but because they make you better without forcing you to change who you are. immature people who aren't ready for marriage will think and believe that marriage will fix all their problems and change everything. you simply cannot find yourself in another person. getting married with this mindset will only cause your marriage to fail in the end. In Amorys case, I believe he was much too immature for marriage. Marrying thinking he will feel fulfilled and finally find himself, is what leads him on a downwards spiral in the end.

There are many dangers of finding your identity in your marriage. Do beck writes that merging and becoming "one" may contribute to you feeling like you're losing your identity or losing yourself in the relationship. It may also feel like you're finding yourself, both are dangers. If you do not know who you are before you get married, then you are not ready for marriage.

Dombeck states, "People's identity is rooted in their identifications; in what they associate themselves with and that can sometimes get lost in marriage." He continues by explaining identity more in depth, "Identity is not just what you know; it is also how you know. People are not born with an identity. Rather, identity is something that evolves over time." Bottom line is, there are dangers of finding your identity in a marriage. it's best to know who you are before you decide to get married, and although marriage brings happiness it should not fix all your problems and make them go away. marriage has a greater purpose.