PRESENTATION OUTLINE
First things first. Don’t take this issue lightly. Your heart has been touched and you can’t ignore that feeling.
If a person is in a secure relationship, emotions don’t simply spark out of the blue. Yes, we may have crushes along the way, but when our emotions take over, this is a sign that there is more going on than meets the eye.
Comparing the friendship to your relationship is like comparing apples to oranges. They are in completely different categories.
What you need to do:
Put the interaction on hold so you can make a decision on your current relationship with a more clear head.
(This will probably be the hardest part)
Get an accountability partner that will help you through this.
The cleanest cut is making sure to close one chapter before you start a new chapter. Maybe your current relationship isn’t exactly done. Once you have distance from your "friend," examine the good, the bad, and the ugly in your current relationship.
Answer the following question:
1. Is your relationship something you are willing to invest time and emotions in to?
2. If your partner make serious changes, would this help you consider diving back into the relationship?
If you answer yes:
Maybe it is time to start expressing exactly (and clearly) what you need in the relationship. Your partner needs to know the seriousness of the requests and it can be helpful to let him know about your heart. Seek out counseling to assist you in this.
If you answered no and you aren’t willing to invest time in the relationship no matter what your partner does, this may be the sign that you are done.
Reach out to others and counselors to help you through this time. Make sure you close this chapter without guilt before you enter in to the next relationship or rondevu.
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