"I don't know if it's better to have your kids be happy and not go to college. I don't know if it's better to be close with your daughter or make sure that she has a better life than you do" (60).
"And all the books you've read have been read by other people. And all the songs you've loved have been heard by other people. And that girls that's pretty to you is pretty to other people. And you know that if you looked at these facts when you were happy, you would feel great because you are describing 'unity'."
"...how her face looked when she realized she was in love with that boy. And then I wondered how her face would look when she came out from behind those doors."
"this was the first time anyone ever counted on me for anything" (118).
"I would die for you. But I won't live for you" (169).
"I think the idea is that every person has to live for his or her own life and then make the choice to share it with other people. Maybe that is what makes people 'participate'" (169).
"It's like you're not even there sometimes ...You can't just sit there and put everybody's lives ahead of yours and think that counts as love...You have to do things" (200).