Couple Friendship
Published on Nov 19, 2015
Discussion about friendship between married couples
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It talk ta dalghodu ser tkun fuq il hbiberija fiz zwieg u kif naslu ghal hbiberija genuijna bejn il koppja
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Xtaqna nibdew din is session billi nistaqsukom mistoqsija! Min minnkom ihoss li izewweg lil ikbar habib jew habiba tighu..... show of hands ! no pressure :)
(Ingrid raises her hand but i will not)
Ingrid : mela mhux ha tgholli idejk int ?
Adrian : le ta ! ma nhossx li izzewgit lil Best Friend ! il best friend tieghi jismu Keith !!
Ingrid : x jigifieri ! jien iwa imma ! mela mhux kuntent ?
Adrian : le x ghandu x jaqsam !! din ta Married your best friend hija cliche fl opinijoni tieghi !
Ingrid: hallik min cliche ! nahseb li importanti ghas success taz zwieg
Adrian: Ma naqbilx ta !
Adrian/Ingrid : (turn to Charmaine) ghandna problema hawn ! mhux qed naqblu ! nahseb ahjar issib lil xi hadd iehor ghal din it talk !
Fr Rene : nista nintervjeni ! nahseb li it tnejn gahndkom ragun ta ! u l ebda ma hi problema ! irridu nid definixxu x inhu habib
(Ingrid raises her hand but i will not)
Ingrid : mela mhux ha tgholli idejk int ?
Adrian : le ta ! ma nhossx li izzewgit lil Best Friend ! il best friend tieghi jismu Keith !!
Ingrid : x jigifieri ! jien iwa imma ! mela mhux kuntent ?
Adrian : le x ghandu x jaqsam !! din ta Married your best friend hija cliche fl opinijoni tieghi !
Ingrid: hallik min cliche ! nahseb li importanti ghas success taz zwieg
Adrian: Ma naqbilx ta !
Adrian/Ingrid : (turn to Charmaine) ghandna problema hawn ! mhux qed naqblu ! nahseb ahjar issib lil xi hadd iehor ghal din it talk !
Fr Rene : nista nintervjeni ! nahseb li it tnejn gahndkom ragun ta ! u l ebda ma hi problema ! irridu nid definixxu x inhu habib
Three Types of Friendship
- Friendship of Utility
- Friendship of Pleasure
- Friendship of the Good (Genuine)
by Aristotle
Utilitarian e.g. business relationship to acquire something
Pleasure e.g. tip ta relazzjoni bhal dik ta sports jew club fejn in nies iqattaw hin flimkien ghax ghandhom l istess interessi
Genuine e.g best friend or spouse fejn hi mibnija fuq hafna iktar valuri
Il hbiberija illum xi tfisser?
Utilitarian e.g. business relationship to acquire something
Pleasure e.g. tip ta relazzjoni bhal dik ta sports jew club fejn in nies iqattaw hin flimkien ghax ghandhom l istess interessi
Genuine e.g best friend or spouse fejn hi mibnija fuq hafna iktar valuri
Il hbiberija illum xi tfisser?
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He had over 2000 friends on Facebook ! I was expecting to see more of them for his funeral !
Veru li ghanda iktar hbieb?
WHAT HAS FRIENDSHIP BECOME IN THE AGE OF FACEBOOK,
Real RELATIONSHIPS VS ONLINE FRIENdship
bla dubbju li it technologija bidlet il mod ta kif nikkomunikaw! ghal ahjar ? ghal ghar? min banda huwa iktar facli li izzomm kuntatt, imma dan ma jfissirx li qed ikollna hbiberia aktar profonda
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With Facebook, "to friend" has become a verb, and yet to do so, in the social-media sense, is a fairly passive act
Social media itina l opportunita li jkollna hafna hbieb imma fil verita il kelma friend giet diluted. ghax inkunu honesti mil ammont kbir ta friends li ghanda fuq fb kemm minnhom nistaw verament inqishuom bhala hbieb
esperjenza: zgur li ghandkom xi hbieb fuq fb li jekk tiltaqaw maghhom barra ma tkellumhomx?
esperjenza: zgur li ghandkom xi hbieb fuq fb li jekk tiltaqaw maghhom barra ma tkellumhomx?
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Facebook places every type of social connection into a single “friend” basket. But relationship categories can serve an important function: An acquaintance versus a true friend, for example, signals different levels of trust and expectations
fuq fb kullhadd huwa f qoffa wahda, ir ragel/mara, genituri, hbieb tax xol, tas sports, persuni li ltqajt maghhom darba biss meta kont imsiefer. Zgur li ma ntix friend ma kullhadd fuq l istess livell. U allura jekk trid tesprimi ruhek fuq fb, kullhadd ha jifhmek l istess?
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Social media allows us to be not too close not too far …just right….we keep each other at a comfortable distance
Fejn jinteressana nippartecipaw imma fejn le ....hallini bi kwieti
Zgur li ma nistawx nimxu b dan l attegjament fir relazzjoni ta bejnietna !
Zgur li ma nistawx nimxu b dan l attegjament fir relazzjoni ta bejnietna !
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Texting, tweeting, email …..we present the image we want to …we can edit, delete etc ….we have full control
We clean up our image with technology
fir relazzjoni ta bejnietna kemm qed inkunu trasparenti ma xulxin, jew qed ninhbew? jew qed nuru lil xulxin dak li jaqblilna?
Min studju li sar iz zghazagh ta llum dawk li twieldu fissocial media u ma jafux mod iehor, jaharbu min face to face communication propju ghax ma ittihomx l opportunita li j editjaw jew ihassru dak li ikunu ser jghidu !!
Min studju li sar iz zghazagh ta llum dawk li twieldu fissocial media u ma jafux mod iehor, jaharbu min face to face communication propju ghax ma ittihomx l opportunita li j editjaw jew ihassru dak li ikunu ser jghidu !!
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Facebook reminds us about our friends’ birthdays – whilst it is very convenient, we need to take care not to wish happy birthday only because Facebook reminds us
Ma nghamlux mod li ftakart li il mara ghanda l birthday ghax fakkrek FB hux ?
Forsi qed nidhqu imma din saret realta! qabel konna nghamlu sforz biex niftakru fil birthday ta dawk l aktar improtanti, illum m ghadniex ?!
Forsi qed nidhqu imma din saret realta! qabel konna nghamlu sforz biex niftakru fil birthday ta dawk l aktar improtanti, illum m ghadniex ?!
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Constant urge to be on-line causes us to lose the present moment
Jigrilkom bhalna? kif ikollkom 5 minuti fil kwiet trid tohrog il mobile u ticcekja il facebook jew x qed jigri ?
Qisna ma nafux noqodu ftit fil kwiet u napprezzaw il mument jew il presenza ta xulxin! hafna drabi nintilfu f dinja ohra u nizolaw ruhna mil bqija.
din qed tkun problema bejn il koppji
Ahna b decizjoni ma konniex poggejna tv fil kcina imma illum xorta sar ghandna l mobile biex itellifna
Qisna ma nafux noqodu ftit fil kwiet u napprezzaw il mument jew il presenza ta xulxin! hafna drabi nintilfu f dinja ohra u nizolaw ruhna mil bqija.
din qed tkun problema bejn il koppji
Ahna b decizjoni ma konniex poggejna tv fil kcina imma illum xorta sar ghandna l mobile biex itellifna
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Pope Francis "a family that rarely eats together, or a family where no one speaks, opting instead to watch TV or look at smartphones, is not much of a family" ....... "put down your cell phones and talk to one another "
Getting used to a new way of being alone together
illum drajna nkunu flimkien imma fl istess hin wehidna fid dinja virtuali taghna!
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Being alone feels like a problem that needs to be solved – we need to be connected
Kemm inti komdu tkun wahdek fil kumoanija tieghek innifsek? biex tibbni relazzjoni ma haddiehor trid tkun kapaci tacetta lilek innifsek.
Kemm ahna kapaci nkunu flimkien fil kwiet minghajr ma nghamlu jew nghidu xejn ?
Esperjenza : Ghidli xi haga !!!!!!!! kienet thoss li ghax ma nghidu xejn it is an akward moment jew hemm xi haga hazina
Kemm ahna kapaci nkunu flimkien fil kwiet minghajr ma nghamlu jew nghidu xejn ?
Esperjenza : Ghidli xi haga !!!!!!!! kienet thoss li ghax ma nghidu xejn it is an akward moment jew hemm xi haga hazina
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Is technology only giving us 'Pretend Empathy' ?
nuzaw it technologija gahx ittina l impressjoni li xi hadd qed jismana jew qed jifhimna ?
F realzzjoni nistennew li nigu mifhumin b mod differenti hux?
allahares kemm jghamillek like
jew xi sad face
F realzzjoni nistennew li nigu mifhumin b mod differenti hux?
allahares kemm jghamillek like
jew xi sad face
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Are we getting the illusion of companionship without the demands of friendship ?
kif jinqala xi haga ahrab !
fil verita ahna qed infittxi=u lil xi hadd li genuinament qed jifhem u jisma dak li qed nghidu u jiddedika hin necesssarju mhux just like u ejja ha nmorru
fil verita ahna qed infittxi=u lil xi hadd li genuinament qed jifhem u jisma dak li qed nghidu u jiddedika hin necesssarju mhux just like u ejja ha nmorru
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Technology is GOOD
We can use it to send 'I Love you' text, but it does not work to get to know eachother
M ahniex nghidu li it technologija hija hazina ta ! anzi minghajra jien u ingrid inkunu bla job......... pero m ghandix tibdel il mod ta kif nikkomunikaw imma biss ittejjeb !
example of an encouragment note during the day or before an important event......
but true genuine friendship requires more than a txt msg
example of an encouragment note during the day or before an important event......
but true genuine friendship requires more than a txt msg
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Genuine Friendship
- Listens to you
- Always has your back
- Accepts you at your worst
- Can talk Personal
- Knows how to make you smile
biex nibdnu relazzjoni genuina iridu nitghallmu nisimghu lil xulxin. din tfissser li nsibu hin ghal xulxin. iridu ukoll nitghalmu dak li jixtieq il partner
esperjenza : jien kont nkun nixtieq lil adrian jismani biss imma hu ta ragel li hu kien ikun irid itini soluzzjoini .
f'sitwazzjonijiet difficli kemm ahna lesti li naffacaw il mewg flimkien jew naqtu qalbna mil ewwel ?
esperjenza : il hajja mux dejjem tigi kif tippjana ...ahna xtaqna li kieku ikollna tfal pero l-affarijiet gew mod iehor....sibna hafna konsolazzjoni u supprt f'xulxin u hallejna din l-esperjenza negattiva kabbarna aktar milli tifridna ...pero we held on....bqajna flimkien anke meta is sitwazzjoni ma kienx mil isbah. biex nsiru hbieb genuini iridu nitghalmu nkunu hemm ghal xulxin fl-iebes ukoll u mux naharbu ma l-ewwel mewga
f'relazzjoni genuina importanti li nsiru naf lil xulxin kif ahna bid diffetti taghna. li nkunu komdi bina nfusna quddiem il partner taghna.
hafna drabi nipruvaw nuru lid dinja ta madwarna image li mux totalment veru...nuru biss is successi tani u is sabih fil hajja taghna ....imma bejnietna kemm ahna kapaci inkunu sincieir u nisytqarru dak li hemm fil fond ta qalbna?
kemm ahna kapaci nifhmu i partner taghna u naccettawh kif inhu allavolja mux dejjem naqblu ? kemm inhallui li differenzi ta bejnietna jaqduna flok ikisruna ? ftit wara li zzewwigna jien xtaqt naghmel feature wall bir rittrati taghna ....ta persuna logika u perfezzjonista li jien (jew kkumplikata) domt zmien twil inkejjel u nikalkula. meta fl-ahhar waslu il frames, adrian hareg l-ghodda biex jibda jiddrilja il hajt pero nduna li ma kellux xi haga krucjali ....l-invell !! peress li hu it tip ta bniedem li l-affarijiet jrid jaghmilhom illum qabel ghada, ried jkompli minghajru. jen kien se jhossni hazin !!! kieku ghalija probabbli ghadni qed inkejjel...hekk flimkein irnexxilna naghmlu bicca xol sew :)
kemm ahna kapaci nferhu lil xulxin anke b'affarijiet zghar ....imqar kelma ta encouragement ...ahna ghanda lingwa taghna per ezempju
esperjenza : jien kont nkun nixtieq lil adrian jismani biss imma hu ta ragel li hu kien ikun irid itini soluzzjoini .
f'sitwazzjonijiet difficli kemm ahna lesti li naffacaw il mewg flimkien jew naqtu qalbna mil ewwel ?
esperjenza : il hajja mux dejjem tigi kif tippjana ...ahna xtaqna li kieku ikollna tfal pero l-affarijiet gew mod iehor....sibna hafna konsolazzjoni u supprt f'xulxin u hallejna din l-esperjenza negattiva kabbarna aktar milli tifridna ...pero we held on....bqajna flimkien anke meta is sitwazzjoni ma kienx mil isbah. biex nsiru hbieb genuini iridu nitghalmu nkunu hemm ghal xulxin fl-iebes ukoll u mux naharbu ma l-ewwel mewga
f'relazzjoni genuina importanti li nsiru naf lil xulxin kif ahna bid diffetti taghna. li nkunu komdi bina nfusna quddiem il partner taghna.
hafna drabi nipruvaw nuru lid dinja ta madwarna image li mux totalment veru...nuru biss is successi tani u is sabih fil hajja taghna ....imma bejnietna kemm ahna kapaci inkunu sincieir u nisytqarru dak li hemm fil fond ta qalbna?
kemm ahna kapaci nifhmu i partner taghna u naccettawh kif inhu allavolja mux dejjem naqblu ? kemm inhallui li differenzi ta bejnietna jaqduna flok ikisruna ? ftit wara li zzewwigna jien xtaqt naghmel feature wall bir rittrati taghna ....ta persuna logika u perfezzjonista li jien (jew kkumplikata) domt zmien twil inkejjel u nikalkula. meta fl-ahhar waslu il frames, adrian hareg l-ghodda biex jibda jiddrilja il hajt pero nduna li ma kellux xi haga krucjali ....l-invell !! peress li hu it tip ta bniedem li l-affarijiet jrid jaghmilhom illum qabel ghada, ried jkompli minghajru. jen kien se jhossni hazin !!! kieku ghalija probabbli ghadni qed inkejjel...hekk flimkein irnexxilna naghmlu bicca xol sew :)
kemm ahna kapaci nferhu lil xulxin anke b'affarijiet zghar ....imqar kelma ta encouragement ...ahna ghanda lingwa taghna per ezempju
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Genuine Friendship
- Encourages you
- Does not judge
- Celebrates your success
- Gives an honest opinion
- Loves You
- Giving of oneself
kemm ahna sincieri ma xulxin ? u kemm min naha l-ohrajn lesti nisimghu l-opinjoni ta xulxin min ghajr ma niehdu ghalina?
iridu naslu f'punt fejn il hbieberija ta bejnietna hija sinciera u miftuha bizzejjed li ahna kapaci nitkellmu fuq kollox
Ma nimxux bil kejl bejnietna
Mhux nilhqu kompromess imma soluzjoni ghat tnejn
esperjenza: meta zzewwigna jien komplejt nistudja ...dan kien issir li hafna mix xol tad dar kellu jaghmlu adrian.
adrian : jien kont naghmlu mil qalb u il fatt li kont nissuportja lil ingrid, kien sodisfazzjon kbir
iridu naslu f'punt fejn il hbieberija ta bejnietna hija sinciera u miftuha bizzejjed li ahna kapaci nitkellmu fuq kollox
Ma nimxux bil kejl bejnietna
Mhux nilhqu kompromess imma soluzjoni ghat tnejn
esperjenza: meta zzewwigna jien komplejt nistudja ...dan kien issir li hafna mix xol tad dar kellu jaghmlu adrian.
adrian : jien kont naghmlu mil qalb u il fatt li kont nissuportja lil ingrid, kien sodisfazzjon kbir
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"No longer do I call you servants, for the servant does not know what his master is doing; but I have called you friends, for all that I have heard from my Father I have made known to you." John 15:15
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