Mindset

When it comes to relationships and mindset, here's what we know...

People with a fixed mindset

• feel judged and permanently labeled by rejection
• focus on REVENGE as a means to handle rejection

Those with a growth mindset

• Rejection is about understanding, forgiveness, and moving on
• They wouldn't consider revenge; they just want to learn from the experience

Fixed mindset

• The expectation is that all good things must come immediately
• If it's right it happens automatically

Growth mindset

• There may be some initial magic but...
• a good relationship grows out of effort and work over time

Connecting Mindset

Fixed mindset people

• have a tendency to be shy
• are concerned about judgment
• are more self-conscious and anxious
• are more worried about making mistakes

Growth mindset people

• can also be shy, but their shyness does not harm their social relations
• shy growth mindset people see social situations as challenges
• they can overcome their shyness and create new relationships

Fixed mindset students

• tend to bully others
• tend to be judgmental
• tend to pick on other fixed mindset students
• tend to think about violent revenge if they are the victim

Growth mindset students

• are not as likely to see the actions of a bully as a reflection of who they are
• see it as a psychological flaw of the bully
• feel sympathy for the bully and the problems they must have

"My number one goal would be to get revenge"

"My number one goal would be to help them become better people."

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