Direct, spoken, negative peer pressure puts you on the spot through direct confrontation. You teen's peers want to convince you to do something you shouldn't do. When peers resort to this type of direct pressure, it's difficult for teens to find an excuse to do the right thing without risking ridicule.
When it seems like everyone else is doing something-dressing a certain way or acting a certain way-teens feel a tremendous pressure to go along with the crowd and be like everyone else. Most teenagers don't want to stand out as being different. Everyone wants to fit in. No one has to say anything to your child, but just observing their peers will create peer pressure to be like them.
Peers can be a positive influence too. Positive peer pressure can make a teen feel like they should join a sport or a youth organization because a group they admires is doing it. If your child is regularly hearing their friends talk about getting good grades, doing volunteer work and joining clubs, they might follow suit.
-You should know that you are unique individuals and that you should make the most of the things that make you different. -Build a close relationship with your parents. -Make new friendships with different people of all types. -Arm yourself with ways to get out of difficult situations in which you're being pressured into doing something you know that is wrong.