Social Intelligence

What is Social Intelligence?

• the ability to get along well with others, and to get them to cooperate with you
• being aware of how what we say and do affects others “people skills”

Consider this:

• One of the biggest human needs is acceptance, a great fear is rejection.
• Our emotions are contagious – other people make us feel better or worse OR we make them fell better or worse.

Gasoline verse Water

Gasoline

• Social Arsonist behavior makes people feel devalued, angry, frustrated, guilty or otherwise inadequate.
• A continued pattern of arson behavior indicates a low level of social intelligence - the inability to connect with people and influence them effectively.

Water

• Water nourishing behavior makes people feel valued, respected, affirmed, encouraged or competent
• A continued pattern of waternourishing behavior tends to make a person much more effective in dealing with others; nourishing behaviors are the indicators of high social intelligence.

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Which side have you witnessed?

Scenario #1

• A good friend is explaining to you that they are concerned their parents are headed for divorce. In the middle of the conversation, your cell phone notifies you of a text message…

Scenario #2

• A student is struggling in class and you have just been grouped with them. They are obviously frustrated.

Scenario #3

• One of your friends takes a picture of someone else which is not very flattering and post it online

Scenario #4

• Two soccer players are walking to tryouts and they see a player walking by did not make the team last year and they did.

Scenario #5

• Student recently broke up with their significant other and is upset because they are already dating someone else.

Gasoline or Water