Who's In Your Room?

Your Room

• Imagine a door to it that is "Enter Only" (1 way).
• How selective would you be?
• Pay attention to what people DO, more than what they say.
• If they are still in your head, they are still in your room.

Relating With Others

• Know your values (Top 7)
• Doorman Principle
• Screening people based on values
• Resonant, not Dissonant

Values

• Current Values
• Values you are living
• Behaviors express values
• Aspirational Values

Using the Doorman

• Having Boundaries, based on your values
• Allows you to be selective
• If you don't know your values, you don't know your boundaries
• Selective Entry - Leave Baggage at the door

Benign Neglect

• One Method of Selectivity
• Can open the door for an honest conversation
• Homeopathic approach- small doses